10CBF: The Ten Commandments for Blended Families

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1) 4 weeks ($1500): weekly video calls (one per week), unlimited email access, access to online video course and study guide, blended family toolkit, 31-day blended family devotional

2) 8 weeks ($2500): ALL materials from above plus text messaging access and one bonus video call during the 8 weeks

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Recent events include the National Head Start Association Parent and Family Engagement Conference, The Stepfamily Summit, Inspired 2 Lead Summit (‘Leading in a Blended Family’), the 10CBF Online Conference (’10 Commandments of Blended Family Life’), and Children’s Aid Society of Alabama monthly training seminar (’10 Commandments of Blended Family Life’ for adoption and foster families).

About Joel W. Hawbaker

Joel is a blended family coach, an award-winning teacher, author, speaker, and host of ’10CBF: A Podcast for Blended Families.’ He loves helping blended/stepfamilies overcome obstacles and grow by teaching them the 10 Commandments for Blended Families.
Joel is a divorced and remarried father of two. He currently lives in Alabama with his wife, his two daughters, and their two rescue dogs Bruiser and Butterscotch.

His first book, Inverted Leadership: Lead Others Better By Forgetting About Yourself was a #1 best-seller on Amazon. He is currently at work on a book about blended families as well as a 31-day devotional for blended families.

Having studied and played soccer at both Covenant College (Georgia, USA) and Oxford University (England, UK), Joel has a B.A. in History and a passion for literature as well as a love for sports, and he looks forward to taking a dream vacation of visiting Hobbiton in the Shire.


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10CBF: A Podcast for Blended Families

Make sure you check out the 10CBF Podcast on Anchor, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen!



Most Requested Topics

The Ten Commandments of Blended Family Life

Blended families are different and they require a unique approach in order to be successful. This presentation teaches you the two pillars and the ten commandments to follow in order to have a successful blended family.

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5 Conversations Crucial to Blended Families

Though each blended family is unique, there are certain challenges that are common to all. These conversations help you address those challenges head-on, and this presentation helps you learn how to have them and why it’s important to revisit these conversations regularly.

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Working With Blended Families: What You Need To Know

This presentation focuses on the specific challenges faced by blended families and the groups/people that work with them. It touches on ethical and legal issues that workers should be aware of (though it does NOT offer any type of legal advice, as I’m not an attorney) as well as suggestions for how to respond to various challenges.

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“I contacted Joel when my boyfriend and I were really struggling with one particular issue we couldn’t seem to get through concerning the kids. Joel took the time to find out the history of what was going on and offered many great suggestions to try and so much encouragement to keep working on what sounded like a fixable issue. His knowledge on the subject of blended family life and step-parenting is so relevant because of his own experiences with his family. He’s recommended things that we haven’t thought about trying and to our benefit, they’ve worked! We know this won’t be easy, but so worth it! With people like Joel In our corner, I believe it will work out beautifully!”

“Joel was a real encouragement to me when my wife and I were struggling. He gave me real insight into what I could do to make my wife feel more secure in our marriage and steps to prevent situations that could cause further insecurities between us. His Godly advice played a key role in the strengthening of our relationship!”

“Joel and his teaching have helped guide our family in the direction we needed. I am appreciative of the information and experience he and his family bring to the table and will use this as we continue our blended journey. Thanks!”

“As soon as Joel finished, several members of my group asked me if he could come and speak again at another event we had going on later that evening!”

“Joel came and spoke to our Lambda Sigma Sophomore Honor Society here at JSU, and he was amazing! Throughout the presentation, he was funny, inspirational, and gave our students specific ways to improve their leadership both now and in the future. I would strongly recommend him to come and speak at other colleges and universities!”

“My students raved about his presentation last year, and cited it as one of the most memorable classes of the semester! I am excited for this year’s freshmen to hear his inspirational talk as well.”

“Joel spoke at our Bosses Bussing Tables fundraiser event for the Community Enabler in Anniston, and he was amazing! He arrived early, met many of our servers and organizers, and was extremely easy to work with. He was also a great speaker: he was funny, inspirational, and gave the audience specific ways to improve their leadership. I would strongly recommend him to come and speak to your business or organization!”

“Joel was selected as a guest speaker by student organizers who had heard his message last year. His presentation resonated with all the attendees to include invited guests. He challenged them to do their best, to step outside of their comfort zone, to take risks, and to stand up for what they believe. He will be invited to speak again at next year’s conference.”

“After I heard Mr. Hawbaker speak at a Rotary luncheon, I knew I wanted him to come and work with our students to help them understand their roles as potential leaders on campus. When he came, I was not disappointed: our students loved his presentation, and his interaction with them kept them engaged throughout both sessions. We would love to make Mr. Hawbaker’s presentation an annual event for our students here.”

“Joel is a very dependable, professional speaker. He was very successful in communicating our objectives, while his colorful speaking style captured the attention of the audience throughout. We highly recommend him for your events concerning leadership topics.”

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